We teach girls to shrink themselves
To make themselves smaller
We say to girls
“You can have ambition
But not too much
You should aim to be successful
But not too successful
Otherwise you will threaten the man”
Because I am female
I am expected to aspire to marriage
I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that
Marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of
Joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage
And we don’t teach boys the same?
We raise girls to each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments
Which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings
In the way that boys are
Feminist: the person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes
– Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
From Beyonce’s Flawless. So, so true.
My soul honours your soul.
I honour the place in you where the entire universe resides.
I honour the light, love, truth, beauty and peace within you,
because it is also within me.
In sharing these things we are united,
we are the same,
we are one.
What the end of every yoga class feels like.
To me, creating a life that feels good has become very important in the recent months.
I do yoga, eat well, meet the ones I love – spend meaningful time with them, spend my money mindfully, travel, read… ALL to get the feeling of immense satisfaction.
There are certain things you do for your soul – and when you do them, your inner glow shines through and people begin to notice it. And it’s not because you started using this new beauty product, but all because you genuinely feel good.
When I was in my mother’s womb, she played the song Sukiyaki to me over and over again so that when I was born it would soothe me because it was a familiar tune. She said it worked. I still really like the song, it’s linked to the image, it’s one of those things that makes me feel good for no real reason.
I used to think that it would never be possible, feeling nothing, where once there was everything.
knowing that I loved you with everything in my being. craving for everything
– for your smell, for your hand, for the crevice in your back that I used to lay my head, your musk, your hair between my fingers, that spot on my neck you knew –
i still crave for it, but i don’t want you.
they say the last person you think about at night matters the most to you – now I think about myself, that spot used to be saved for you.
i found the word for it today. anagapesis.
no longer feeling any affection for someone you once loved.
you have been anagapesis-ed. it sounds clean, sterilized.
it’s like you were surgically removed from me,
somehow, slowly & very painfully I must add.
and now there is nothing where everything used to be.
Since my trip up Brauneck mountain, during our Europe trip this summer, whenever I see pictures of mountains, it makes my heart aches. I miss the vastness, the green, the never-ending beauty. Is it because we live on such flat land and the only mountains in Singapore come in the form of skyscrapers, which I love too, but in a very different, clinical way.
There is something magical that happens up there in the mountains. The world comes to a standstill, there is only you and beauty. Just you and heart wrenching, soul grabbing beauty. Read more to view the images.
Continue reading “Mountains”
Your drudgery is another person’s delight. It’s only a job if you treat it that way. The privilege to do our work, to be in control of the promises we make and the things we build, is something worth cherishing. – Seth Godin
Excellent reminder, via http://sethgodin.typepad.com/